Sterling K. Brown recently got candid with Jennifer Hudson while spilling details on his celeb crush — who surprisingly became his co-star years later. During an episode of Hudson's eponymous talk series,

As Sterling K. Brown and Ryan Michelle Bathé gear up to release their new podcast, 'We Don't Always Agree', on Sept. 25, the couple talks to PEOPLE about what has made their 17-year marriage last and why they sometimes lean into Brown's 'This Is Us' character,

Sterling K. Brown and wife Ryan Michelle Bathé agree that they have to let their kids decide who they want to be.